Ok I haven't talked about this at all this year. But it's starting to get on my last NERVE! Who knew I had so much patience? My oldest is so sweet and sensitive. She really is. She has been pushed around all year by the Mean girls at school and all she really wants is to be their friends. But they are always picking. She's been seeing the school counselor since September to learn how to deflect it but really "I" statements don't really seem to have any affect on these girls. She never wanted me to go to the parents and talk to them about it. She was afraid of what the kids might do etc.
Finally last week she hit her breaking point and told me I could tell one mom if it meant we could cancel the carpool which she had been begging me to do for weeks. So I did have that talk and the carpool was cancelled. The first day there was some nastiness with the child telling everyone she wasn't speaking to Em. But hey Em was really good with that and was lighter than air going to school Wed., Thur and Friday they were all great days she woke up early made her own lunch couldn't wait to get there, was all bouncy etc. Then yesterday she got her hair cut. And now we're back to the ICK. Clearly the parent talking to the child meant nothing. Mean girl 1 got together with an even Meaner girl that bullied MG1 all year last year(and they complained about her, go figure) and they ganged up on Em talking about her hair etc. etc. etc.
I'm so frustrated. She's down again about school and she shouldn't be. Three good days out of the entire school year that's all we get, really? Poor kid she is doing everything right. She's using the right words she's telling them how it makes her feel they just don't give a flying fig.
I just needed to vent I can't take it anymore. This sitting back letting them fight their own battles in the manner that suites them best is getting the better of me! I'm sorry to bring this here but UGHHH I want to scream outloud and can't!
6 comments:
I am so sorry Em is having to go through this. I wish I had some words of wisdom to offer. Big hugs (and prayers) to you both.
Being bullied is horrible...watching your little ones go through this stuff is even worse. Emily is a sweet little girl...you've raised her to value other people and their feelings...it's a shame that OTHER parents don't do the same for their children.
Bullies make me crazy!!! Don't hold back, do whatever you think you need to do to help your little girl feel better about going to school. Thinking of you, Tracy
Ouch Ouch so sad....Happened to my Daughter too... It will get better and your Daughter will be stonger just give her lots of love and kisses and tell her how special she is for nothing being like them and to hang in there time will fix it all !!!
I'm so sorry your daughter is having to deal with such nastiness at school. Girls can be so much meaner than boys when it comes to bullying. I hope she can find some nice girls to be friends with and those mean girls get a life and stop making others miserable!
I know how both you and Em feel. I too, was bullied when I was in Grade 8. It all started in October that year when a girl a few years younger than I; started calling me stinky. Next thing I knew, almost all the kids in grades 5 - 8 were calling me stinky and holding their noses while doing so. I went home in tears many times. My Mother was at her wits end and finally called the mother of the girl who started it. It didn't do a bit of good cuz the girl denied it. Mom told me to ignore them but that was very hard to do. They knew they were getting to me and just kept it up. Towards the end of the school year, I got her alone and she again called me stinky, held her nose, said "Phew you stink!" All the anger and frustration built up and since no one was around, I beat the crap out of her. I felt a lot better but am not condoning that anyone would choose to fight someone who was teasing them. She went home and told her mother who called my mother. Mom by this time was just as frustrated and angry as I was and told the woman that she was surprised that I hadn't lost it a lot sooner and then proceeded to tell this woman just how cruel and mean her daughter was and that I came home in tears more days than not. To make a rather long story short, the woman finally believed my Mom and punished her daughter and made her apologize to me. The school principal heard about it (he was a bit dense as all the teasing was going on right under his nose, but he chose to ignore it) and he sent me out of the classroom one day and proceeded to lecture the kids on how I had been treated. He made each one of them come to me and apologize. I accepted their apologies but to this day, I still have feelings of inferiority and lack self esteem cuz of what they did to me. Before any of this happened, I was a normal child who was happy, carefree and felt good about myself. That girl stole that from me and deep in my heart, I don't know if I can ever truly forgive her. Even now 45 years later the thought of that little b*tch makes my blood boil!
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